What is important in this context is where and how they are stuck now. When you have four flat tires, where you want to go is irrelevant until you get the tires fixed.
The client does not usually have the resources or the ability to know what to do about their situation – that is why they are the client. As the metaphor is developed, clients will often discover their own solutions, which can be either specific external behaviours, or changes in attitude, etc. But when they don’t, then it is the therapist’s job, as expert, to give appropriate, accurate and precise guidance. It is this precision that the MoM training model develops for the therapist.
In MoM, the metaphor is expanded only as far as is required so that the advice given by the therapist makes perfect sense to the client. The MoM model demands a high degree of creativity, humour, rapport, lateral thinking, and of course sensitivity to the client’s response to all of these. These key skills are essential elements in MoM training.
MoM training seeks to eliminate these mismatches. This takes rapport building to a whole new level – not only does the therapist pace and lead V-A-K modalities and sub-modalities, for example, but also the metaphorical identity of their experience. Examples of these can be found on the rest of the site.
MoM is a very practical methodology, often utilising drama, props and re-enactments. Clients and trainees of the process report that they find it practical, fun, effective, relatively fast, and most commonly, that it changes many of the accepted rules and practices of contemporary change work. The fact is: you will never hear language in the same way again!